Note to small business owner

It is not recommended to make promises to your customers, not keep those promises and blame your customer.

It is also not recommended to bad mouth your contact person to their boss when their boss knows the truth, that boss may just tell that contact person to look for a new vendor.

Guess what that contact person would be more than happen to handle that task...Just saying.

Communication

Communication is important in any relationship. We have all heard that men and women communicate differently and is one reason relationships end.

I always here jokes about how when a man says he wants to watch the game – it just means he wants to watch the game and women will often think something along the lines that he is unhappy with her or uninterested in her. Women often read between the lines and try interpreting what is being said and many times they are wrong in their interpretation.

Since the BF and I have both been divorced we have both gone through the reflecting to try and see what went wrong, what we could do to improve future relationships. The BF has said that one of his issues is communication and he is working hard to make sure he is clear and that he is also a good listener.

Here is an example ….

Me – I am sorry I did not want to dance tonight I just didn’t feel like it. I really did not like having to say no like 100 times.

BF – I am sorry I didn’t know.

Me – but I said it.

BF – I am still learning your signals.

Me – ok what could I do differently to be clearer?

BF – Well what was your signal?

Me – Well when I said “No, I really don’t want to dance tonight”

BF – ohhh

Granted I generally don’t like to dance because I am too self-conscious and I am working through that slowly. I have danced other times we have gone out but I had a few drinks before hand. On this particular night I had not had a drink in a few hours and was very happy with the conversation and people watching.

But see we are communicating –

Life - Relationships ...Oh my...

What do you do when your new boyfriend

• is 7 years younger than you

• tells you he wanted to go out with you 10 years earlier but you would not give him the time of day

• almost says he bought his new vehicle to fit the new situation

• likes to give smooches in public

• has an aunt that went out with your younger brother

• enjoys spending time with you and your child

• has only been divorced for almost 5 months

• has an ex-wife who wants to call and complain because her mother is mad at her over the divorce – she the one who got pregnant with someone other than him

• is self sufficient with virtually no debt

• will probably do just about anything for you

• is the proverbial nice guy

When you

• feel really weird about being 7 years older

• remember that 10 years ago but remember liking one of the other younger guys

• don’t want the car you have

• feel funny but PDA

• didn’t even know that your brother was seeing anyone at the time

• have a child that adores him

• have been on your own for 4 years

• has an ex-husband that will be in the picture forever

• still has a huge student loan and recovering credit

• feel you are too selfish currently state to deserve such attention but can’t seem to shake it at times

• are trying to enjoy the nice guy and not second guess it

I guess you try to get over the little stuff and enjoy the good stuff. It’ll be 6 months at the end of this month – things are going well.

I enjoy it when he is around but I also enjoy my own time and my own space. There are still things that I like to do or don’t do but don’t feel comfortable doing when he is around – stupid stuff but my stuff all the same.

Long time

Time has gone by really fast.

We have a new employee - things are working out well. I miss Kelley but lucky for me she does go out to lunch with us once in awhile. Things are busy but ok.

Christmas is coming and no daddy visit - just a vacation for me and my little monster baby.

I recently saw the man that I wanted to marry and always thought I would and swear it feels like I will never get over...He and his his very cute wife are getting ready for their first child. I am very happy for him and wish them the very best.

I am actually dating.....I guess. not sure how I feel about it yet. I like the guy but....

He is 7 years younger than me.
He is one of my brothers friends.
He is thinner than me.
and most of all his divorce is not final yet. It will be in 20 days.

Kinda feels like he is trying to fill that void. I guess the best thing is to take it slow and give it time.

Anyway I hope all is well!!!

Irritations

There does not seem to be any time anymore.

We have hired someone new but they don't start until the 22nd.

Steve is doing very well in school and is busy with soccer and cub scouts.

I am dealing with my favorite vendor......

Vendor "I see an active issue report here that if the bill date has a date in it the process won't run. Can you clear the bill date and then try it again?"

Me "I am looking on the account screen and don't see a bill date, can you tell me where the bill date is and I will clear it and try it again"

3 days later

Vendor "Can you run the process again so that I can see how you are running it and then I can find the bill date. I don't know where it is right now."

Me "I found it." I looked at the program for 15 minutes and low and behold there it tells me where it is.

Owell I should know by now just to look myself, I seem to find it faster than asking the vendor to help me with my problems - they can't seem to answer any of my questions lately.

But of course if I do not respond to their email within 20 minutes they are trying to call Kelley because the just can't seem to get a hold of me. She does not even work on this project anymore and even though they have been notified they still call her - poor girl its not like she doesn't have enough people callling her to have to get calls about my issues.

URGGGGG

Anyway I hope all is well. Maybe someday I will be able to visit instead of just popping on once in awhile to pop off :)

I blinked

And September is almost gone....

Its been busy but I really haven't stressed on it too much. Just kinda gone with the flow and realized what gets done gets done and I can only do what I can do.....all I can think is "the meds must be working" :)

Still haven't had any time to browse....doing the 'My Thing' but wanted to share this...

this is a picture Steve and I took from the plane on the way to Arizona on vacation....I think it is amazing...we took several, this is my favorite.

Mt. Rainier, WA

I hope everyone is doing well!!!

Wow Long time

Well My Steve is home, we had our vacation, school has started, soccer has started, cub scouts have started, I am a year older and work is busy busy busy.

I went to my parents house tonight and they are busy cleaning out their garage. In their garage where some of my things. It is funny reading some of the things I have written in school years ago.

I wrote this when I was 16. Still sounds appealing. An English paper.....

Ideal Place
I want to go where I can be free of city noise and city hassles, where the grass is green and the sky is blue. Riding horses through the meadow, listening to the wind go by me in a flash, is what appeals to me. Having a picnic on the grass with the warm suns hays amidst me. I want to go where I can enjoy the smell of fresh cut grass in my yard instead of a smokestack fumes. To be safe from pollution and smog in the clean place where only few go. To see the stars in the fresh, clear night with someone special, is something I'd enjoy. having dinner by a fire, eating fresh cooked fish caught earlier in the day would be a nice way to end that day.



Its funny huh.