So what is right and what is not?

When I was young my mom was very adamant that it was not appropriate for a girl to call a boy on the phone. I did anyway because I was boy crazy and just wanted to talk to them. The best almost relationship that I have ever had was with a guy that I asked out the first time. I say almost because he never took me or our “relationship” seriously. Sometimes I blame that on my aggressiveness.

But I don’t think that would be true for every guy. Look at my brother. A great guy. He works hard, he is responsible, supportive, and an overall great catch. But he is too shy. He would love to have some woman ask him out. Even if he did not feel at first that she was his type he would go out and have a good time. Give it a chance and then let her know if things were going in a direction that he did not feel comfortable with. Let her know that there was a real connection between them. He is “shy” and does not feel comfortable asking someone out unless he has spent more time with them in social situations with friends. That is they way he is.

I have heard/seen that some guys feel that if a woman asks them out..she must be desperate….so they become not interested. Then you have the other guys who are upset that more women don’t ask guys out…its kind of a catch 22.

Where is this all going…I really want to go see a “scary” movie and want to ask someone to go with me…should I take that chance or just wait till it comes out on video and save if for when I do have someone to watch it with?

I know that there really is no “right” answer…but opinions are greatly appreciated.