Sometimes you just can't help but wonder....
A while ago I met this guy. He was divorced and has two kids, one the same age as Steve and one a little younger. I have not been looking to date but I have thought that the idea of having someone to hang out with would be nice. But as I have said before the biggest issue with that it is hard to find any guys that want to "waste" their time with that....so here I sit...afraid to take chances and sometimes feeling very alone...
Anyway this guy and I did have dinner one night...it was not a date.....It was a meet and talk kind of thing...I paid for my own dinner and it was dinner nothing more. What I found out was that he was still married....in fact he had just moved out of the house he shared with his wife....He had spent new years with his wife and his wife's boyfriend and had even shared the marriage home with his wife and the new boyfriend for about a month....he was still very angry...I could hear it in his voice..see it in his eyes.
After that dinner he told me in email how nice I was, attractive, very caring etc...and he respected how I put my son first and that we should get together with the kids and get to know each other etc....etc.....etc...I felt it was slightly over the top....especially since we had only had one meal together...for what an hour....He also said he would be calling...he added me as his friend in the whole "myspace"...the more and more that I thought about it..the more and more the little red flags were bouncing up in my head...hmm to what to do if he called....
Well I am relieved and curious to report that I don't have to worry about that...I have been removed as his friend and have yet to receive a phone call from him....
So I am wondering about this power I have over men...they either cling real hard like my EX or run like hell like every other guy I talk to.....
Owell I guess it is a real good thing I am too nervous to get involved with anyone...that way I don't have to worry too much about my effect....
Anyway this guy and I did have dinner one night...it was not a date.....It was a meet and talk kind of thing...I paid for my own dinner and it was dinner nothing more. What I found out was that he was still married....in fact he had just moved out of the house he shared with his wife....He had spent new years with his wife and his wife's boyfriend and had even shared the marriage home with his wife and the new boyfriend for about a month....he was still very angry...I could hear it in his voice..see it in his eyes.
After that dinner he told me in email how nice I was, attractive, very caring etc...and he respected how I put my son first and that we should get together with the kids and get to know each other etc....etc.....etc...I felt it was slightly over the top....especially since we had only had one meal together...for what an hour....He also said he would be calling...he added me as his friend in the whole "myspace"...the more and more that I thought about it..the more and more the little red flags were bouncing up in my head...hmm to what to do if he called....
Well I am relieved and curious to report that I don't have to worry about that...I have been removed as his friend and have yet to receive a phone call from him....
So I am wondering about this power I have over men...they either cling real hard like my EX or run like hell like every other guy I talk to.....
Owell I guess it is a real good thing I am too nervous to get involved with anyone...that way I don't have to worry too much about my effect....
posted by Kylee at
9:06 PM
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I don't know what to say to this post. Hmmm, i guess all i can say is value yourself and your instincts. Most of keep away from "needy" guys.
Go with your gut. I tell ya, after I divorced it was the same way- loser and loser, then when a good, decent guy came along- I was too freaked out. Wasent ready for more that 'dating'. They were ready for marriage. There were 3 in particular. Great guys, wrong timing. After 5-6 years of divorce, I have Phil. Right timing, he loves my boys, and is a great guy. It gets better.
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